I Got On Stage Last Night

Yes, almost three years married and I got on stage at the bar.  Just because you have a ring on your finger doesn't mean you have to be a bump on a log!

I absolutely love live music and my "introvert coat" tends to come off when I'm with my best friends and music is playing.  So yeah, I was on stage with my friends, the piano player, and then a bachelorette party I was definitely not a part of.  And David knew it.  He was at a table just chatting and hanging with a friend, doing his thing.

I would've done it whether he was there or not!  Remember now, dueling piano bar, nothing too risky.  But still, some wouldn't even think about it out of fear of what their significant other would say or do.  That's no way to live!  (And honestly, it was one of the best nights I've had in a long time)

So what does it mean?  Dave just doesn't care?  Or that I don't care about him...   No, it means we both have an unwavering amount of trust and that we know what we got into!

David met me when I was 20 and let's just say that 20 year old girl will always be in me (even if just a little bit).  And I hope he'd be sad if that wasn't the case.  I'm still the care-free, adventurous college girl he fell in love with and she's not going anywhere!  (sorry, not sorry)  So just remember your significant other, is still that same person you fell in love with so many years ago. And even if they're not 22 anymore, they still need to be able to let go and be carefree for a bit here and there.  We put too much on our plates most times as adults and "adult too hard".  We all need to let go a bit and that could look differently for every single person.  But we need it, to stay mentally and emotionally happy and healthy.  So if something is just calling your name and maybe it's not very "adult-y", by all means- if it's something you want to do- just do it!

I think sometimes couples get too serious and it turns into routine and monotonous rather than still being "young" and enjoying life together, letting the other thrive and like Tim McGraw says to "live like you're dying".  Don't forget doing something silly like getting on stage might just cause your guy or girl to have the biggest smile because they love the crap out of you or they'll take a video to show your kids and laugh with you later about it.  Know your level of trust with each other and be willing to let each other breathe and grow- it's crucial to a healthy relationship.

leave the "eh" behind

and go dance your butt off!

hugs,

abi